Navigating Family Tensions During Funeral Planning
Navigating Family Tensions During Funeral Planning
Planning a funeral after losing a loved one is difficult enough without added family disagreements. But clashing perspectives on details like the service programme, eulogy, guests, and more can cause heightened tensions. At Funeral.Sydney, we guide families through honouring the deceased while respecting diverse wishes.
If facing family conflicts, keep these tips in mind:
- Remind yourselves that grief affects everyone differently. Anger, blame and irrational behaviour often stem from sadness. Have compassion.
- Identify the family member(s) best suited to facilitate compromises and lead decision-making based on their temperament.
- Discuss the priorities your loved one had for their service and legacy. What would make them proud?
- Involve extended family and friends who knew them well to gain wider perspective. They may suggest suitable compromises.
- For religious or cultural considerations, consult your funeral director and faith leaders for advice navigating sensitivities.
- Set aside time for open family discussions where each person can express opinions and feel heard. Listen without judgement.
- Compromise where you can such as incorporating diverse musical selections or ritual elements. Seek common ground.
- Accept that consensus on every decision is unlikely. Refocus on your shared love and appreciation for the deceased.
- Politely ask family members who become disruptive or aggressive to take a time-out for the sake of harmony.
- If tensions persist, seek counselling or mediation to resolve ongoing conflicts in a healthy manner.